Pain is certain ,suffering is optional so don’t worry.
Our Thoughts, Emotions , and Worry
So don’t worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will bring its own worries. Today’s trouble is enough for today. –Matthew 6:34 (NLT)
In order to properly understand how harmful worrying is, one must first recognize that our fate (our human experience), depends largely on three factors – our thoughts , emotions ,and faith.
A thought is a form of vision, an image we hold in our mind. Emotion, on the other hand, is the energy to realize the thought. Not only do our thoughts and emotions create our moods, but they play a large part in the circumstances of our lives what kind of health, financial, social situation we are in, what skills and talents we have, what kind of people and situations we attract to ourselves. Therefore, it follows directly from this that the quality of our thoughts and emotions determines the quality of our lives.
Our faith will strengthen our inner energy and believe that we can do it, and something with higher power is looking on us , helping us when we make a positive thought and that God almighty will never let you down no matter what, sure you will go throw period of trials and tests ,but with patience, handwork, planning and adopting to new challenges we will overcome the difficulties.
I recently lost a very good friend that I knew for 30 years; the problem is that I wanted to be more than friend. She is smart, educated, respected, beautiful, professional, divorced, and had over more than dozen failed relationship with men. They left her, drifted away from her, let her live in a nutshell etc. So I always felt that I am the perfect fit for her, and how in earth those men can hurt the feeling of the most precious thing in my life. I was worrying and over thinking.
I really liked her, I imagined this person to be, and I desperately wanted us to be friends. By the time I was done over thinking the situation, I pushed my luck too much and she was and still is do not want to be more than friend. So I lost her.
It was over thinking at its finest, and it led me to be pretty intense in texting her, but I let my feeling over run the boundary of friendship. I scared her away with my advances. The problem was that she didn’t have the emotional energy that I needed. She probably liked me just fine and did want to be my friend, but my all-consuming intensity was too much for her, and she pulled away.
I took that slight change in our friendship as total rejection. I over thought it until she no longer wanted anything to do with me at all, and I subsequently stopped reaching out to her. Our friendship fizzled and withered, and I still miss her. It is not easy to let go of someone you know for 30 years.
Some people worry about what other people think of them, about what is going to happen, about what they should have done or said, and about what the worst case scenario. I worry and over think about all those things, too.
Here are some signs that you might be an over thinker
· You second guess everything.
· You analyze situations/reactions/conversations endlessly.
· You predict the worst will happen.
· You hate making decisions because you can’t stop going over the options.
· You can’t sleep at night because you can’t shut off your brain.
· You prefer to let someone else make decisions for you.
· You experience extreme feelings of regret once you’ve had time to analyze and re-analyze a situation.
· You can’t let things go.
· You take things personally even when they aren’t meant to be personal.
· You are a perfectionist.
· You criticize yourself all the time.
· You criticize others all the time.
· You feel tense.
One thing that I have learned to do when I notice I’m doing it is to worship God , and pray. Prayer is almost always the best answer to any question. Worship and pray to GOD alone , and not to anybody else , only to God.
Be still and know that I am God. –Psalm 46:10 (NLT)
Lord, help me to be still and trust in your divine plan. Help me to know that You are God and give me faith that You will always do what’s best for me.
Trust in the Lord with all your heart; do not depend on your own understanding. Seek his will in all you do, and he will show you which path to take. –Proverbs 3:5-6 (NLT)
Can all your worries add a single moment to your life? –Matthew 6:27 (NLT)
We are constantly creating endless thoughts, but most are fleeting and related to small things. However, when we spend time “meditating” worshiping and praying to God almighty , with our heart and attention he will remove the worries , and all depends on the level of our faith.
It is also true that we must seek the advise and help of a medical professional before we go and ask God to heel us. He want us to do the right thing then pray and ask God that the medicine will work.
The word “meditation” is put in quotation marks because it is not true meditation. True meditation is a state of focusing the mind on things that are positive. In true meditation, we consciously choose to approach the things we focus on and attract into our lives. In our case, worrying is a form of thinking about things that are not positive. Remember the Devil always put doubts in your heart while God put hope, peace of mind, and strength to carry on.
We worry because we believe that we can mitigate or reverse certain events if we’re able to anticipate them. Another form of worry is the inability to cope with the unknown. For example, we don’t hear from our loved one who has their phone turned off, and we begin to fall into a negative loop of imagining what could have happened. Often, such a loop leads to fearful thoughts about what will happen when we lose a loved one, when he or she leaves us, how will we’ll cope with such a loss, etc.
These spirals of negative thoughts get their own dynamics. Because we fuel them with so much anxiety, it accumulates and only awaits the opportunity to manifest itself again. Then we feed it with a new dose of attention, giving it another power.
These worry spirals of negative thoughts not only have a pernicious effect on our well-being, they also have another side effect – the attraction of beings who have already lost their physical body and now reside in the emotional world. If they are not moving away from the octave of physicality, and this is often the case, they are being influenced by very strong emotions that we, as humanity, have collectively generated throughout the evolutionary process.
Fear, rage, or hatred are extremely strong in that world. If we come into contact with such beings our anxiety will develop into something much more intense than mere worry; something we will no longer be able to control or withstand.
We must start developing the ability to create positive visions. They will be responsible for life becoming more and more beautiful, and we will begin to gain evidence that our thoughts and emotions really do have the power to make things happen with the true faith in God , that he and only he alone can permit it, as long as we are welling to start the change from within , then we can change those around us.
Can all your worries add a single moment to your life? And if worry can’t accomplish a little thing like that, what’s the use of worrying over bigger things? –Luke 12:25-26 (NLT)
Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life. –Proverbs 4:23 (NLT)
Steve Ramsey, PhD.