Anger, frustration, fear, and other “negative emotions” are all part of the human experience. They can all lead to stress and are often seen as emotions to be avoided, ignored, or otherwise disavowed, but they can actually be healthy to experience. A better approach is to manage them without denying them, and there are several reasons for this.
Our emotional reactions stem directly from our childhood, from what emotions we chose to react to various situations back then. When the same or a similar situation arises again, we react emotionally in a similar way. The energy we invested in our emotional reactions collects and forms emotional patterns , referred to as our emotional body or astral body.
When the emotions are positive, this is a desirable emotional response. Negative patterns, on the other hand, are less desirable and require work to change. Just as we have “worked out” a certain emotional pattern, we can now work on changing it.
This is very necessary, because very often our emotional reactions are negative, and therefore we are suffering. We must refuse to accept this. The first step in changing an emotional reaction is to become fully aware that the emotion has taken hold of us.
The idea of “managing” negative emotions is a complex one. It doesn’t mean avoiding them. It is actually a form of coping that attempts to do this, and it can often backfire.1 It also doesn’t mean letting these negative emotions wreak havoc on your life, your relationships, and your stress levels.
Managing negative emotions is more about embracing the fact that we are feeling them, determining why we are feeling this way, and allowing ourselves to receive the messages that they are sending us before we release them and move forward.
Unfortunately, there are still many people who out of fear of experiencing a negative emotion give in to it. They get angry, feel sorry for themselves, and more without allowing themselves to be aware that they are feeling that emotion.
Managing negative emotions also means not allowing them to overrun us. Emotions aren’t necessarily good or bad, they are just states and signals that allow us to pay more attention to the events that create them. This can either motivate us to create more of a certain experience or less, for example
Those around them can see that they are angry, for example, but when asked they say that everything is fine. Only when their emotions accumulate to a certain, critical level do they explode. So the first step is to look at your own emotions and to know what you are feeling at each moment of your waking experience.
Unlike some emotions, negative emotions are not always pleasant to experience. But, like most emotions, they exist for a reason and can actually be quite useful to feel. These negative emotional states can create extra stress in your body and your mind. This is uncomfortable but also can lead to health issues if the stress becomes chronic or overwhelming.
The next step is to decide whether the emotion is desirable or not. If it is not, only then can we begin to work on not giving in to it. Such non-surrender is negating the emotion, but not on the principle of not wanting to feel the emotion. Instead, you’re coming from a place of recognition that the emotion is not the desired emotion and are making a decision not to allow it to influence your reactions or thoughts.
This is you being able to say “I feel a great emotion such as anger, but I don’t give in to it, I don’t allow it to lead to, for example, an argument or to blame myself or others”. During this process we have to be persistent, sometimes we have
been feeding this emotion for a long time and it has accumulated enough in our emotional body to require persistent attention. The good news is that its energy is finite and we only need to survive its “attack” by not reacting to it. This alone will already ensure that we do not energize it with additional energy. As a result, the emotion will lose intensity and will, at some point, never return again.
It happens that we have fed, for example, anger for a long period of time with a large amount of energy. In these instances, its strength has become very great to the point where the emotion has an almost hypnotic effect on our behavior. Something upsets us and we immediately explode. Sometimes we are even able to see that the situation that triggers this emotion is not proportional to our reaction.
Nobody likes to feel uncomfortable, so it is natural to want to escape these feelings, and the dangers of unmanaged stress are real. However, there is a feeling that people sometimes have that these emotions will last forever or that the feelings themselves are the problem.
More often, these feelings are beneficial because they can also send us messages. For example:
- Anger and anxiety, something needs to be changed, and that perhaps our well-being has been threatened.
- Fear is an appeal to increase your level of safety.
- Frustration or resentment motivates us to change something in a relationship.
Basically, negative emotions are there to alert us that something needs to change and to motivate us to make that change.
If there is an insignificant things happens and we react very strongly (but I am not referring to the reaction coming from a spirit possession aka spirit attachment. Emotions coming from our own emotional body are much more subtle than intrusive and strikingly strong emotions coming from spirit attachments). We may also know that we should not react negatively but the hypnotic influence of our emotion is so strong that we fail to do so.
Positive psychologists also argue that while there are many benefits to positive emotional states like hope, joy, and gratitude, there are also negative effects that can come from them. Optimism, for example, has been linked to many beneficial outcomes for health and happiness as well as personal success.
Unchecked optimism, however, can lead to unrealistic expectations and even dangerous risks that can lead to loss and all of the negative feelings that can come with it. More uncomfortable emotional states like anxiety, however, can lead to motivation to make changes that can create more success and avoid danger.
Negative emotions are designed to keep us safe and to motivate us to improve our lives, just as positive emotions are. You can also understand the terms Tears, and Hope.
Tears = Teach and learn, Express, Accept, Re appraise re-frame, and Social support.
While HOPE term is = Happiness 3 to ratio. Observe to be mindful and non judgmental. Physiology and behavior changes- make sure to focus on relaxation, breathing, self-care, exercise. EUDAIMONIA is to strive for goals in life.
We must then find a way to distance ourselves from the emotion. The best way is to try to relax. Stop talking and acting, sit still, or lie down, just the fact that we stop talking or acting will raise our vibration. The hardest part is at the very beginning, when we have to break the automatism of our own emotional reactions. This is when we need to focus on awareness of our own emotions the most.
Motivation and Colors can help your emotion .
I wish that the entire world would make a holiday with pay, we can call it Mental rest day. This is like taking a staycation. It involves creating a day that’s filled with positive experiences that you’d have on vacation while minimizing the stress you’d have in your regular schedule. All the movies and TV, Social media will stop all the negative campaigns ,bad negative news, free exercise places , free lectures , discounts on healthy food and free bottle of water, and anything that help us to gain more positive emotion.
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