Chemistry

Does Chemistry feeling secure a good relationship ;The answer is NO

There are 6 key areas that couples need to connect on to stay together happily long-term.

They are compatibility, having common goals, moving at the same pace through life, the right timing , attraction to personality and admiration ,– and one other mysterious ingredient that is arguably the most important of all: Chemistry (SPARKS, ROMANCE) and that is LUST factor.

If you have a Lust at first sight, Instant attraction, feeling really comfort­able around someone after exchanging two words this is the start of sexual lust relationship but not secure you to last long, As many are divorced , abused, dumped by those who have a great chemistry with .

IT IS ALL BULSHIT AND PURE LUST, IN 99.9% OF THE TIME, it’s fun and that’s it. It allow them to use you, use your body and then dump you after few years.

Finding yourself ignoring the hot person trying desperately to talk to you ,and instead feeling an irresistible urge to kiss their unattractive friend.

Feelings like you know someone’s soul when your eyes lock.

That’s chemistry.

And there’s a simple way to tell if you’ve got it with your partner: if you have to think too hard about it, you haven’t.   

Chemistry is instant: it’s either there right from the start or it develops rapidly.

Apart from being none-too-subtle, chemistry is illogical, irrational and out of our conscious control – which is why it can land us our perfect match or in scalding hot water. 

It starts when you are child, teen and growing you perfect this false picture of you in bed with someone , the person you like and what they suppose to look and do etc. Y

our parents, family members and your culture can lead you to be repulsive away from your kind and look for a different culture to make yourself fit and belong. Even if that means leaving your culture, heritage, family and religion you still go and sleep with that person and possibly marry them.

Chemistry doesn’t care if this person will dump you after three nights, divorce  you after 5 years or drift away after 9 months, you don’t look ahead if you will live with him/ her in a nutshell, or be his maid and  sex salve  and yet you allow them to use you will pleasure .

This happen to those who have abused childhood, family raped and sexual abuse while in their teen. Also to those who want to change their skin and culture by associated themselves with other cultures, find them so attractive even if they are from different background, skin color, and different faith.

Chemistry works on a primitive level – like whether your body wants to get close to theirs. In the animal Kingdom we see more of this.

IT IS PURE LUST.

It’s involuntary and feels delicious, which is why it’s so frustrating when we find chemistry with people we know we shouldn’t (your best friend’s husband, your friends boyfriend, your priest, your teacher, doctor, or the police man who come to the hospital or the EMS nurse ,etc

By the time you are 50 plus years you will find that all these chemistry was all lust and temptations.

While chemistry alone won’t guarantee you a great relationship , it is a good recipe  for a sexual lust relationship .Many women want to be dominated, slaved without knowing and they refuse to admitted otherwise . That is why we see so much abuse, hurt, depression, suicides by those men and women in these kind of relationship , not all by majority of them.

Many women confuse lust with chemistry as If you’ve only made love once or twice with  a deep, tonsil-touching kiss doesn’t end with both of you ripping your gear off in the lounge room, it is not a good sign and chemistry, well it is lust, pure and simple.

Burning loins, frantic underwear removal, snogging in inappropriate places – if you’re not doing it in the beginning, you sure as hell won’t be six months down the track (let alone 5  years on the road , when your man drift away from you it is the end .

So chemistry have a shelf life and not many women knows that ( shelf life), the smart woman should read about shelf life of chemistry before even start . Smart men should know that too and keep the chemistry burning with a good shelf life and not burn the sparks at once.

If you’re both ­emotionally healthy and don’t have any hang-ups, my honest answer is, not usually. But there are exceptions.

If you’ve had bad sexual experiences that have made you afraid of sex, you might be too scared to feel passion. in case of sexual abuses , especially here in Canada and USA where many women sexually abused as a child or teen by family member, stepfather, a boos at work , a teacher etc.

You probably won’t have ‘chemistry’ with any partner, not just this one.

Or perhaps you’ve been hurt one too many times and fear that if you give all of yourself (commit your heart, mind and body) you’ll never survive if it happens again.

In those situations, it’s worth getting some ther­apy and seeing how you feel afterward.

Otherwise, think about whether this person should be your partner than you chemistry imaginary man.

Can a good relationship develop when all you have in common at the start is the frantic urge to shred the sheets together?

You bet it can! Sexual attraction is incredibly powerful but you need to give a chance to that special friend who you kept in the corner as friend only.

If you’re working through the Kama Sutra for the sixth time and still don’t know the names of their brother and sister (or even if they have any), it’s a pretty safe bet it’s lust.

If you’re still spending most of your time having sex but have at least emerged long enough to meet each other’s significant friends and family, hang in there.

CHEMISTRY in scientific term;  involves the elements and compounds composed of atoms, molecules and ions: their composition, structure, properties, behavior and the changes they undergo during a reaction with other substance.

So both of you are the main elements that have sexual lust and compounds, the properties that attract you to his/her negative or positive values it changes you and dissolve your emotion to be one after reaction in sexual lust.

The hydrogen and oxygen lust each other to compound and reacts to make water, cool and smooth water ,yet the hydrogen is infallible gas and the oxygen is allowing this gas to burn even more both reacts to ignite and spark toward relaxing result and that is water.

So the result of this chirms try in human is to burn the hidden sexual energy and urge to be shared with strangers to reach the ultimate cooling and relaxation , and that in turn lead to addiction and so in human many men will leave you , dump you and go find better suitable more sexual partner to spark with.

SO DON’T BE FOOLED BY CHEMISTRY ALONE. Continue Reading →

Fear anxiety and romance

Fear is one of the enemy’s most popular weapons that he uses against us. Worry, anxiety, fear…can overwhelm us with a thick shadow of darkness, controlling our every move and decision

[The holy Quran 10-62 mentioned that ‘Absolutely, GOD’s allies have nothing to fear, nor will they grieve. You can find similar thing in the Bible

[Quran 10:63] They are those who believe and lead a righteous life.
[Quran 10:64] For them, joy and happiness in this world, as well as in the Hereafter, This is GOD’s unchangeable law. Such is the greatest triumph.

The biggest problem in the world today is that people do not know who they are. Consequently, they have their priorities mixed up. You like someone so very much and you can fight the world for her but she or he does not like you because they don’t feel romantic enough. They don’t understand that Romance alone doesn’t guarantee you successful marriage and love, as it is LUST.

When the lust gone the men will drift away and leave you in a nice way, divorce after divorce and it is all the same multiple partners and boyfriends failed marriage and relationships all in the name of romance and then they will give an excuse to each situation like we drifted away, I felt in a nutshell, he is not hot and romantic enough, I underestimate his family or children, he is drinking now and gamboling, he don’t have time for me and so on.

Or they assume because you are from this or that culture you are not good fit and they stereo type you .It all about fear and anxiety after lust. True love is very hard to find and sometimes it is right in front of your eyes, so close to you but he or she decided to make you just a friend!

 If you ask the average person who they are, they look in the mirror. But this body is a vanishing garment. Yet, most people spend their entire life on the body–going to school, working hard, earning a lot of money. Meanwhile the real person, the soul, goes hungry. Hungry for love, true love and spiritual growth not spiritually bankrupt.  If we fail to heed our Creator and starve our souls, we eventually lose it. And this is the real loss, an eternal loss (Quran 7:9, 39:15).

That’s why it is better not to fallow your lust and temptations as most the human follow their sexual organs and not their heart and brain.

How do we feed our souls and become truly happy in this world and the Hereafter? The answer is by believing and leading a righteous life (Quran 6:158, 10:62-64). God has given us great gifts to grow our souls–the religious duties, including the 5 daily Contact Prayers (Salat).Yet you can learn to love and have great admiration to those who you don’t feel romantic with.

2 Timothy 1:7 For God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control.

You can have a person pray for you, if you have fear and the spirit of fear will go. However, when this spirit comes back to ‘check you out’, and you were never taught how to fight the fight of faith and resist the spirit of fear, oftentimes the fear will come back. This happens because you will think, “the prayer did not work, I must be doing something wrong. God did not answer my prayer, etc.

May God help us be aware of who we are, so that we spend our time growing our true self–the soul?

So much crazy going on around us today – wars, conflicts, persecution, violence, crime, natural disasters, terrorism, economic uncertainty, unemployment, divisions, China virus, disease, and death. We fear for our children’s future, we fear for our families, we fear for our financial future, we fear for our safety. The list goes on…long. There actually is a lot we could potentially worry about.

Yet reality tells us that so much of what we spend our time worrying about never even happens. Living under the weight of the “what if’s” is a hard place to dwell. 

If you focus and follow those who truly love you and can support you  things will be changed ,Change happened. Anxious thoughts began to diminish. Worry let go of its constant grip. And though fear is sometimes still there, it no longer wields control, holding you back, paralyzing you in its grasp, and romance will happen too. But we are society of monkeys , copy cats, people tell you and you believe , you live your life looking for romance and forget true love because your friends said this or that and they tell you that it’s all about chemistry and sparks ( lust).

It’s not always easy, and it often comes down to a choice: 

Choosing not to allow fear and anxiety to control your life. 
Choosing to guard your heart, and to follow temptations, addictions and lust.
Choosing to focus your mind on what is true in the midst of uncertain times.

We might still feel afraid, but we can believe that God is with us. We may not be in control, but we can trust the One who is. We may not know the future, but we can know the God who does.

 “So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God.  I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.” Isaiah 41:10
 “When I am afraid, I put my trust in you.” Psalm 56; 3  
 Do not be anxious about anything but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving; present your requests to God.  And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in God name” Philippians 4; 6-7.
 “For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.” ~2 Timothy 1;7
 “There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love.”1 John 4; 18  
 “An anxious heart weighs a man down, but a kind word cheers him up.” Proverbs 12; 25
“Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will Fear no evil, for you God are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me.”Psalm 23; 4
“Do not worry about your life, what you will eat; or about your body, what you will wear.  Life is more than food, and the body more than clothes.  Consider the ravens: They do not sow or reap, they have no storeroom or barn; yet God feeds them. And how much more valuable you are than birds!  Who of you by worrying can add a single hour to his life?  Since you cannot do this very little thing, why do you worry about the rest?” Luke 12; 22-26.

From this verse Buddhists born and follow the kind life ,but that doesn’t mean you stop planning, saving and prepare for the future . Continue Reading →