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Does Chemistry feeling secure a good relationship ;The answer is NO

There are 6 key areas that couples need to connect on to stay together happily long-term.

They are compatibility, having common goals, moving at the same pace through life, the right timing , attraction to personality and admiration ,– and one other mysterious ingredient that is arguably the most important of all: Chemistry (SPARKS, ROMANCE) and that is LUST factor.

If you have a Lust at first sight, Instant attraction, feeling really comfort­able around someone after exchanging two words this is the start of sexual lust relationship but not secure you to last long, As many are divorced , abused, dumped by those who have a great chemistry with .

IT IS ALL BULSHIT AND PURE LUST, IN 99.9% OF THE TIME, it’s fun and that’s it. It allow them to use you, use your body and then dump you after few years.

Finding yourself ignoring the hot person trying desperately to talk to you ,and instead feeling an irresistible urge to kiss their unattractive friend.

Feelings like you know someone’s soul when your eyes lock.

That’s chemistry.

And there’s a simple way to tell if you’ve got it with your partner: if you have to think too hard about it, you haven’t.   

Chemistry is instant: it’s either there right from the start or it develops rapidly.

Apart from being none-too-subtle, chemistry is illogical, irrational and out of our conscious control – which is why it can land us our perfect match or in scalding hot water. 

It starts when you are child, teen and growing you perfect this false picture of you in bed with someone , the person you like and what they suppose to look and do etc. Y

our parents, family members and your culture can lead you to be repulsive away from your kind and look for a different culture to make yourself fit and belong. Even if that means leaving your culture, heritage, family and religion you still go and sleep with that person and possibly marry them.

Chemistry doesn’t care if this person will dump you after three nights, divorce  you after 5 years or drift away after 9 months, you don’t look ahead if you will live with him/ her in a nutshell, or be his maid and  sex salve  and yet you allow them to use you will pleasure .

This happen to those who have abused childhood, family raped and sexual abuse while in their teen. Also to those who want to change their skin and culture by associated themselves with other cultures, find them so attractive even if they are from different background, skin color, and different faith.

Chemistry works on a primitive level – like whether your body wants to get close to theirs. In the animal Kingdom we see more of this.

IT IS PURE LUST.

It’s involuntary and feels delicious, which is why it’s so frustrating when we find chemistry with people we know we shouldn’t (your best friend’s husband, your friends boyfriend, your priest, your teacher, doctor, or the police man who come to the hospital or the EMS nurse ,etc

By the time you are 50 plus years you will find that all these chemistry was all lust and temptations.

While chemistry alone won’t guarantee you a great relationship , it is a good recipe  for a sexual lust relationship .Many women want to be dominated, slaved without knowing and they refuse to admitted otherwise . That is why we see so much abuse, hurt, depression, suicides by those men and women in these kind of relationship , not all by majority of them.

Many women confuse lust with chemistry as If you’ve only made love once or twice with  a deep, tonsil-touching kiss doesn’t end with both of you ripping your gear off in the lounge room, it is not a good sign and chemistry, well it is lust, pure and simple.

Burning loins, frantic underwear removal, snogging in inappropriate places – if you’re not doing it in the beginning, you sure as hell won’t be six months down the track (let alone 5  years on the road , when your man drift away from you it is the end .

So chemistry have a shelf life and not many women knows that ( shelf life), the smart woman should read about shelf life of chemistry before even start . Smart men should know that too and keep the chemistry burning with a good shelf life and not burn the sparks at once.

If you’re both ­emotionally healthy and don’t have any hang-ups, my honest answer is, not usually. But there are exceptions.

If you’ve had bad sexual experiences that have made you afraid of sex, you might be too scared to feel passion. in case of sexual abuses , especially here in Canada and USA where many women sexually abused as a child or teen by family member, stepfather, a boos at work , a teacher etc.

You probably won’t have ‘chemistry’ with any partner, not just this one.

Or perhaps you’ve been hurt one too many times and fear that if you give all of yourself (commit your heart, mind and body) you’ll never survive if it happens again.

In those situations, it’s worth getting some ther­apy and seeing how you feel afterward.

Otherwise, think about whether this person should be your partner than you chemistry imaginary man.

Can a good relationship develop when all you have in common at the start is the frantic urge to shred the sheets together?

You bet it can! Sexual attraction is incredibly powerful but you need to give a chance to that special friend who you kept in the corner as friend only.

If you’re working through the Kama Sutra for the sixth time and still don’t know the names of their brother and sister (or even if they have any), it’s a pretty safe bet it’s lust.

If you’re still spending most of your time having sex but have at least emerged long enough to meet each other’s significant friends and family, hang in there.

CHEMISTRY in scientific term;  involves the elements and compounds composed of atoms, molecules and ions: their composition, structure, properties, behavior and the changes they undergo during a reaction with other substance.

So both of you are the main elements that have sexual lust and compounds, the properties that attract you to his/her negative or positive values it changes you and dissolve your emotion to be one after reaction in sexual lust.

The hydrogen and oxygen lust each other to compound and reacts to make water, cool and smooth water ,yet the hydrogen is infallible gas and the oxygen is allowing this gas to burn even more both reacts to ignite and spark toward relaxing result and that is water.

So the result of this chirms try in human is to burn the hidden sexual energy and urge to be shared with strangers to reach the ultimate cooling and relaxation , and that in turn lead to addiction and so in human many men will leave you , dump you and go find better suitable more sexual partner to spark with.

SO DON’T BE FOOLED BY CHEMISTRY ALONE. Continue Reading →

Five stages of grief

Whatever your loss, it’s personal to you, so don’t feel ashamed about how you feel, or believe that it’s somehow only appropriate to grieve for certain things. If the person, animal, relationship, or situation was significant to you, it’s normal to grieve the loss you’re experiencing. Whatever the cause of your grief, though, there are healthy ways to cope with the pain that, in time, can ease your sadness and help you come to terms with your loss, find new meaning, and eventually move on with your life.

Grieving is a highly individual experience; there’s no right or wrong way to grieve. How you grieve depends on many factors, including your personality and coping style, your life experience, your faith, and how significant the loss was to you.

Inevitably, the grieving process takes time. Healing happens gradually; it can’t be forced or hurried, and there is no “normal” timetable for grieving. Some people start to feel better in weeks or months. For others, the grieving process is measured in years. Whatever your grief experience, it’s important to be patient with yourself and allow the process to naturally unfold.

Myths and facts about grief and grieving

Myth: The pain will go away faster if you ignore it

 

Fact: Trying to ignore your pain or keep it from surfacing will only make it worse

 in the long run. For real healing, it is necessary to face your grief and actively deal with it.

Myth: It’s important to “be strong” in the face of loss.

 

Fact: Feeling sad, frightened, or lonely is a normal reaction to loss.

Crying doesn’t mean you are weak. You don’t need to “protect” your family or friends by

Putting on a brave front. Showing your true feelings can help them and you.

Myth: If you don’t cry, it means you aren’t sorry about the loss.

 

Fact: Crying is a normal response to sadness, but it’s not the only one.

Those who don’t cry may feel the pain just as deeply as others.

They may simply have other ways of showing it.

Myth: Grieving should last about a year.

 

Fact: There is no specific time frame for grieving. How long it takes differs from

 Person to person.

Myth: Moving on with your life means forgetting about your loss.

 

Fact: Moving on means you’ve accepted your loss

But that’s not the same as forgetting. You can move on with your life and keep

The memory of someone or something you lost as an important part of you.

In fact, as we move through life, these memories can become more and more

Integral to defining the people we are.

While grieving a loss is an inevitable part of life, there are ways to help cope with the pain, come to terms with your grief, and eventually, find a way to pick up the pieces and move on with your life.

Acknowledge your pain.
Accept that grief can trigger many different and unexpected emotions.
Understand that your grieving process will be unique to you.
Seek out face-to-face support from people who care about you.
Support yourself emotionally by taking care of yourself physically.
Recognize the difference between grief and depression.

In 1969, psychiatrist Elisabeth Kübler-Ross introduced what became known as the “five stages of grief.” These stages of grief were based on her studies of the feelings of patients facing terminal illness, but many people have generalized them to other types of negative life changes and losses, such as the death of a loved one or a break-up.

Shock and Denial: “This can’t be happening to me.”

Anger: “Why is this happening? Who is to blame?”

Bargaining: “Make this not happen, and in return I will .”

Depression: “I’m too sad to do anything.”

Acceptance: “I’m at peace with what happened.”

If you are experiencing any of these emotions following a loss, it may help to know that your reaction is natural and that you’ll heal in time. However, not everyone who grieves goes through all of these stages—and that’s okay. Contrary to popular belief, you do not have to go through each stage in order to heal. In fact, some people resolve their grief without going through any of these stages. And if you do go through these stages of grief, you probably won’t experience them in a neat, sequential order, so don’t worry about what you “should” be feeling or which stage you’re supposed to be in.

Kübler-Ross herself never intended for these stages to be a rigid framework that applies to everyone who mourns. In her last book before her death in 2004, she said of the five stages of grief: “They were never meant to help tuck messy emotions into neat packages. They are responses to loss that many people have, but there is not a typical response to loss, as there is no typical loss. Our grieving is as individual as our lives.” Continue Reading →

Chemistry of human attraction

One of my blog readers asked me a question about human chemistry, and attraction? And why his beautiful friends Connie like him as a friend and not more than that?

He added that she told him many time that she have no romantic feeling toward him and can’t do more than to be a friend, He love her so very much and asked me what to do. I found myself digging into the books, history and the human psychology in the holly books and this is my answer.

The true love should be directed to God only, and all other loves are of the flesh, lust, temptation or to make a foundation of a family and partnership. To be a partner in any situation you must have similar likes and dislike, same goal, and personality that attract to each other throw mutual respect, dignity, compassion, and of course romantic feeling if the partnership was for marriage or love. We are attracted to vibration throw looks, sound, behaviors, and statue.

She might not like the way you look, maybe you are overweight or not in shape, maybe she don’t like your teeth or part of your body part, maybe she done like your personality or political ideology. She or he has made their mind about the person who wants to be with.

In the animal Kingdom, birds, fish, and insects, the male goes through many difficulties to attract the female, you see the male species more beautiful , have gorgeous feathers, and colors, beautiful sound and voice . Or strong body, big horns, good fighters, etc.

The idea is to stand out in the crowd, to be the prime among the rest. This is also true in the human specious. The only different that some human select those who are kind, generous, helpful, faithful, truthful, handyman, good father image, and then they look after other sexual points.

Using The miracle of Quran and Torah and its numerical value of 137 as a “coupling constant” between Quran, Torah and science, delves into the cutting-edge theories of modern physics, such as complementarity, uncertainty, the expanding universe, entanglement and CPT symmetry to reveal their miracle significance exploring elements of the standard model of physics through the prism of the holy books that reveals a complete spectrum of insights into both realms – and even suggests new avenues for scientific investigation.

How do 137 determine human lifespan and couple the body with the soul to give life? How does this relate to the role of women in society, the power of communication and the power of music and chemistry? I will write about this subject soon.

The chemistry you are talking about in science term is the scientific discipline involved with elements and compounds composed of atoms, molecules and ions: their composition, structure, properties, behavior and the changes they undergo during a reaction with other substances.

This is true when a female look at you, she look into your eyes, smiles and lean toward you and that is attraction for starters. They will check your feeling and disciplines, your body is the atom, your personality and attitude is the inner ions, as many ladies do not like a rude men and men with bad attitude. Then they look into your work, what you do and what they will feel when they are with you, do you make them feel important, wanted, romantic, loved, satisfied, number one, faithful to them.

Or do you lie, show no interests, lazy, and have bad behaviors and addictions. They want a man who can communicate and give them time and share feeling and most importantly a great listener .Otherwise if you don’t fit they will feel that the relationship will drift away, or they will be living with you in a nutshell. Many women assume something based on previous relationship and they do not give a chance to someone who is trying so hard to win her heart. The best thing is to let go and be a friend as the attraction is not solid for her and she do not feel any vibration and connection to you. Continue Reading →

How can you deal with a bad day and learn from it.

We are all have bad days .Your car breaks down, you wait two hours at the doctor’s office, a nonsensical policy change is announced at work, you sit on your glasses, and you start making dinner and realize you’re missing an essential ingredient. Forgot you mask and then started to get worried about covid .forgot to feed your pet and you are in the middle of the road toward your work etc. what if we did this or that, makes tired and lose sleep and it can lead to depression

I woke up feeling tired, I blamed the cold and the snow, I did shovel and cleaned the snow from my front garage and the garden large patio .I was angry that winter here is too long almost 8 months. I lose my beautiful garden and song birds; the summer is too short in Calgary. Maybe I should move to BC. Your mind gives you so many scenarios and option but the reality is that I can’t move now until I sale my house and that will happen in 18 months, 3 weeks and 16 hours from now. Who’s counting anyway, LOL?
Researching this topic was a real eye-opener for me. I feel as though I’ve learned so much about emotions in general, and more than that, it’s opened up a new level of acceptance for myself and the way negative emotions present in my life. DONT LOOK BACK, DONT WORRY ABOUT THOSE WHO DONT CARE FOR YOU, you pray for them and wish them all the best , but karma will get them one day and show them how they were wrong about you and how they made a bad choice . This is their lives and not yours so keep focus and keep going .

I’ve definitely fallen victim to thinking that negative emotions need to be banished from my emotional repertoire and felt that they lessened my emotional intelligence through how I react to them. Learning that not only are they completely normal, but with a little bit of work, openness and curiosity from me, I could learn to develop better compassion and control.

If there is one thing I want you to take away from reading this article, it’s the compassion piece for your full capacity to experience emotions as a human being. Negative emotions are an extremely important part of our existence. Be open to them, embrace their part in your life and learn to incorporate them in proactive ways. Remember to respond rather than react, and I’m confident you’ll find new ways of approaching these emotions with authenticity and positivity. LOVE THOSE WHO HATES YOU, CARE FOR THOSE WHO ARE UNGRATEFUL, TEACH THOSE WHO DIDN’T TEACH YOU, help those who didn’t help you in moderation, and always show the genuine compassion of your soul 

Please e mail me here in this blog and tell me your story your solution and your methods .

Thank you

Steve Ramsey

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Fear anxiety and romance

Fear is one of the enemy’s most popular weapons that he uses against us. Worry, anxiety, fear…can overwhelm us with a thick shadow of darkness, controlling our every move and decision

[The holy Quran 10-62 mentioned that ‘Absolutely, GOD’s allies have nothing to fear, nor will they grieve. You can find similar thing in the Bible

[Quran 10:63] They are those who believe and lead a righteous life.
[Quran 10:64] For them, joy and happiness in this world, as well as in the Hereafter, This is GOD’s unchangeable law. Such is the greatest triumph.

The biggest problem in the world today is that people do not know who they are. Consequently, they have their priorities mixed up. You like someone so very much and you can fight the world for her but she or he does not like you because they don’t feel romantic enough. They don’t understand that Romance alone doesn’t guarantee you successful marriage and love, as it is LUST.

When the lust gone the men will drift away and leave you in a nice way, divorce after divorce and it is all the same multiple partners and boyfriends failed marriage and relationships all in the name of romance and then they will give an excuse to each situation like we drifted away, I felt in a nutshell, he is not hot and romantic enough, I underestimate his family or children, he is drinking now and gamboling, he don’t have time for me and so on.

Or they assume because you are from this or that culture you are not good fit and they stereo type you .It all about fear and anxiety after lust. True love is very hard to find and sometimes it is right in front of your eyes, so close to you but he or she decided to make you just a friend!

 If you ask the average person who they are, they look in the mirror. But this body is a vanishing garment. Yet, most people spend their entire life on the body–going to school, working hard, earning a lot of money. Meanwhile the real person, the soul, goes hungry. Hungry for love, true love and spiritual growth not spiritually bankrupt.  If we fail to heed our Creator and starve our souls, we eventually lose it. And this is the real loss, an eternal loss (Quran 7:9, 39:15).

That’s why it is better not to fallow your lust and temptations as most the human follow their sexual organs and not their heart and brain.

How do we feed our souls and become truly happy in this world and the Hereafter? The answer is by believing and leading a righteous life (Quran 6:158, 10:62-64). God has given us great gifts to grow our souls–the religious duties, including the 5 daily Contact Prayers (Salat).Yet you can learn to love and have great admiration to those who you don’t feel romantic with.

2 Timothy 1:7 For God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control.

You can have a person pray for you, if you have fear and the spirit of fear will go. However, when this spirit comes back to ‘check you out’, and you were never taught how to fight the fight of faith and resist the spirit of fear, oftentimes the fear will come back. This happens because you will think, “the prayer did not work, I must be doing something wrong. God did not answer my prayer, etc.

May God help us be aware of who we are, so that we spend our time growing our true self–the soul?

So much crazy going on around us today – wars, conflicts, persecution, violence, crime, natural disasters, terrorism, economic uncertainty, unemployment, divisions, China virus, disease, and death. We fear for our children’s future, we fear for our families, we fear for our financial future, we fear for our safety. The list goes on…long. There actually is a lot we could potentially worry about.

Yet reality tells us that so much of what we spend our time worrying about never even happens. Living under the weight of the “what if’s” is a hard place to dwell. 

If you focus and follow those who truly love you and can support you  things will be changed ,Change happened. Anxious thoughts began to diminish. Worry let go of its constant grip. And though fear is sometimes still there, it no longer wields control, holding you back, paralyzing you in its grasp, and romance will happen too. But we are society of monkeys , copy cats, people tell you and you believe , you live your life looking for romance and forget true love because your friends said this or that and they tell you that it’s all about chemistry and sparks ( lust).

It’s not always easy, and it often comes down to a choice: 

Choosing not to allow fear and anxiety to control your life. 
Choosing to guard your heart, and to follow temptations, addictions and lust.
Choosing to focus your mind on what is true in the midst of uncertain times.

We might still feel afraid, but we can believe that God is with us. We may not be in control, but we can trust the One who is. We may not know the future, but we can know the God who does.

 “So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God.  I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.” Isaiah 41:10
 “When I am afraid, I put my trust in you.” Psalm 56; 3  
 Do not be anxious about anything but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving; present your requests to God.  And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in God name” Philippians 4; 6-7.
 “For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.” ~2 Timothy 1;7
 “There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love.”1 John 4; 18  
 “An anxious heart weighs a man down, but a kind word cheers him up.” Proverbs 12; 25
“Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will Fear no evil, for you God are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me.”Psalm 23; 4
“Do not worry about your life, what you will eat; or about your body, what you will wear.  Life is more than food, and the body more than clothes.  Consider the ravens: They do not sow or reap, they have no storeroom or barn; yet God feeds them. And how much more valuable you are than birds!  Who of you by worrying can add a single hour to his life?  Since you cannot do this very little thing, why do you worry about the rest?” Luke 12; 22-26.

From this verse Buddhists born and follow the kind life ,but that doesn’t mean you stop planning, saving and prepare for the future . Continue Reading →

My answer to a paranormal incident in Quebec – schizophrenia

THIS IS HER STORY

I seriously need help but I don’t know who to turn to.

Be aware that I only started taking notes on the 4th of September 2020.

On the 27th of July 2020, I had to put down my cat, which I adored with all my heart.  I was still crying so much on the second day of her passing that I decided to look up pet afterlife videos on YouTube.  I fell upon one of Danielle McKinnon’s videos, and that’s when I finally felt relief knowing that my cat was still with me. 

I must say that I never stopped talking to my cat. When I would go out, I would say goodbye. When I came in, I would say hi! When I looked at the places where she often hung around, you guessed it; I talked to her.  On nights that I would watch a movie, I pretended that my cat was resting on me and would pet her back, just like we always did. 

About one week or two after the passing of my cat, I started to feel as if I had energy coming out of my fingertips.  The next day it intensified, and I suddenly witnessed first hand how we are all energy. The day after that, I could feel the energy coming out of everything! For a few days, I didn’t know what was going on and felt very baffled.  

I did not realize then how it was important for me to take notes when such and such event happened, so I might sound a little bit confused. 

One night, while I was watching a movie, I called Lea to come and watch a movie with me. Since her death, I had done this every time I watched a movie. So, I pretended I was petting her and that’s when I started to feel her whiskers, her breath and even her kissing me as she always did when she was alive.

The night after that, I couldn’t wait to watch a movie with my girl. All-day, I felt a small animal, such as a little dog or cat, walking on my feet and trying to jump on my knees. So, thinking it was my baby girl, called Lea, I kept on telling her to jump on me, but she wouldn’t; she stayed with her feet on my feet and her head on my knees, begging me to pick her up. I must tell you that I am in a motorized wheelchair, and so you can understand how it would be easy for an animal to walk and rest on my feet. 

I think it was on that same night that while I was lying in bed, I saw three figures (silhouettes). One; that I could not see very well but figured that it was my cat because I could faintly feel it licking my fingers, as she used to do—another one; going back and forth on my feet and one more that I call the guardian because it did not move. 

So, first, I discovered my cat, and then there were three cats, and then four. Also, I thought that I was going to be able to feel them only at night, but that is not the case. I can feel their mustaches, their little wet nose, and I can feel their breath anytime they are near me and even if there are people around.

Quick update: 5ft Sept. 2020. I am now surrounded by at least five or six pets. I can feel their whiskers… there is even one that seems to be very young because it is chewing on my shoes and pinched the back of my leg yesterday. Also, they are not all cats as I thought; there are also dogs and maybe even other types of animal such as rats.

The 9th of September 2020

Now I need serious help. This situation is not fun anymore.  About 3 nights ago, I counted 9 animals in my bed; that is when my problems began. This will sound absolutely impossible, but I swear to you on my father’s head, who is still alive, that what I am about to tell you is real.

The night that I could see 9 different shadows of pets, I sensed one coming up to my ear at a swift but delicate pace, and it resembled a lot like a Chihuahua that we had, my parents and I some 30 years ago. Now you may think to yourself, “So what? it’s only a Chihuahua, what harm can that do?” I am very embarrassed to tell you that the Chihuahua started licking my private parts.

On that first night of her appearance, I got it to stop, but all the days ever since, she has been continuously licking my vagina and my butthole. I swear to you this is not a joke. It is not fun at all to have this freaking ghost Chihuahua dog licking your private parts from morning ’till night.

I have tried chasing her away with sage. Since I did not want to chase away my own cat, I’ve decided last night only to purify my body, as well as my motorized wheelchair. This afternoon I think I will have no choice but to try to cleanse the whole apartment since it did not work at all.

Update the 12th of September 2020

The sage made things worse; it intensified the Chihuahua’s pace. I tried telling them that they are not welcome anymore, that they must all go. That was last night. Today, I am ignoring them, but I can still feel some of them touching me with their whiskers. As for the little corrupted one, I still feel it but faintly.

Some Paranormal chasers have told me to stop talking to my baby and any of them, to stop giving them attention. They also said I should firmly ask them to go away… but I don’t think they will. One told me to look up what an incubus was and that it should give me an idea of what I am dealing with.

Do you have any suggestions as to what to do meanwhile to protect myself?

I literally did not sleep last night and surely won’t sleep at all tonight either because I am now afraid that they will get angry with me now that I am ignoring them.

It wIll sound stupid, but I put a garlic head under the seat of my motorized wheelchair.

Do you recommend something else?

Have you ever heard of such a situation?

I need some professional help, can you help me

Sincerely  ( K.D_ )  Carol ; City: Rimouski, Region: Quebec, Canada.

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