Why living with and tending plants is good for you

“Emotionally, they are helpful to mental wellbeing. And plants can also be a way to reflect on your cultural origins or remember holidays.” She cites the recent book The Well Gardened Mind by Sue Stuart-Smith. “The author quotes a study that found that being in the presence of indoor plants – or looking at scenes of nature – prompted people to make decisions that showed higher levels of generosity and trust, and had a sociability effect. She describes one woman who started looking after some cacti and found the process very healing and therapeutic, and she writes that ‘plants are like people, they need your help. Without you they don’t live’.” Continue Reading →

How to choose between two jobs

Then, ask yourself the following questions:

·Which job still lines up with my career goals?

·What really matters, Write down everything that matters most when it comes to your job or career. This list might include promotion opportunities, salary, commission structure, company culture, type of work, control over the projects on which you will work, bonus eligibility, benefits such as medical coverage, hours of work per week, or the amount of business travel.

·Does one job have more opportunities than the other?

·Which job will challenge me?

·Which job offers me the chance to learn new skills or sharpen my skill?

·Prioritize. After brainstorming, read through the list and prioritize the items from most important to least. Analyze. Make two columns next to your prioritized list, one for each job opportunity. Think through each item and how well each job will provide for/satisfy each priority, writing notes in both columns

If you’re having trouble deciding between two jobs, consider both through the lens of your long-term goals. Consider which position holds the most promise, and choose the one that will get you where you want to go. Don’t get stuck just because you are in a comfort zone.

2. Weigh salary with personal satisfaction

When choosing between two jobs, an easy question comes to mind: Which one pays more? But remember that Salary is not everything as long as you don’t lose so much, select the one that gives you less stress, make you happier, with a team that respects you and celebrates you than a team who always puts you down and points fingers and not the facts.

Make sure that you focus on the Personal satisfaction, as it is also paramount. So what happens if the job you don’t really want pays a lot more than the one you do?

If this is the case, you’ll need to weigh whether a higher salary will make up for a job you don’t like. Sure, you’ll have more money to spend outside of work. But if you’re bored 40 or more hours per week, a higher salary might not boost your happiness much.

If the job teaches you new skills and challenges you, make you happy and make you feel that you are with the winning team then go for it.

I strongly recommend that you decide on your job not necessarily for the money, but for how closely the offer aligns with your values, less stress, and happy work environment.

If one position’s pay is so low you won’t be able to support yourself, you should probably go with the other one. But if both salaries meet your needs, you might be better off choosing a more fulfilling job in terms of respect, low stress level, place that promotes you and there is a room for your progress.

3. Assess the culture of each workplace

Many hiring managers assess cultural fit, so you also should focus on issues such as compassion, trust, meaningful workplace, places with less bullying and rude people.But cultural fit isn’t a one-way street. You also need to decide whether each company is a good fit for you not just for the managers.

If you’ve ever been in a toxic work environment, you know how tiring it can get day after day. Even if you’re passionate about the company’s mission, you’ll lose steam in an uncomfortable workplace, because your managers are stupid, unprofessional, point fingers and not the facts, bullying, they are always right and you are always wrong, they always find a problem and not a solution, and the list goes on and on.

 On the flip side, you might develop a passion for a company if its culture makes you feel valued and challenged. Respect and honesty are the key factors and if they don’t respect you and honor you just leave them and don’t look back. Managers and supervisors are a dime a dozen and it is very rare to find a good leader with leadership quality that you will be honored to follow. Continue Reading →

Obtaining happiness, prosperity and peace

Talking about happiness ,reading about it ,and  wish each other happiness, prosperity and peace, but only a few seem to know how to be peaceful. Here are some steps that might help one to find the most needed inner peace.

Take Time for yourself; taking some time for yourself improves the quality of your life

Often, we become so engrossed in our day-to-day activities, we simply end up gathering more and more information, and do not take time out to think and reflect. Then we feel dull and tired. We need to stop and reassess, evaluate and preplan.

A few quiet moments everyday are the source of creativity. Silence heals and rejuvenates and gives you depth and stability. In Islam the daily prayers and worship provides the 5 times where you become toned with the creator, enjoy his friendship and worship, silent your temptation and greed, reduced your stress and anger. Sometime during the day, sit for a few minutes; get into the cave of your heart, eyes closed, and keep the world away, pray to God in silent or with words .

Know the Impermanence of Life

Millions of years have passed and this life run with time in a linear dimension for time and in all direction for space but all are going to one source. So remember nothing is for ever and all this life will stop and will reborn again in hand of God to a different form of life.

Just open your eyes, and ask, “Who am I? Why am I on this planet? What is my lifetime?” The answer of course is clear and it is in the Quran, God answer this for you , he said he created everything human, demons and all other creations for one thing and one thing only , and that is to worship him. So the key thing is worship God alone. All other reasons of creations are secondary and the only reason that we are here to worship and pray to one God only.

An awareness dawns, and you will stop worrying about little things. All smallness will simply drop and you will be able to live every moment of your life.

When you review your life in a broader context, the quality of your life improves.

Perform Random Acts of Kindness

Make a commitment to make this world a better place to live. Do some acts of kindness without expecting anything in return. Zakat, Sadaqa, help the poor and the orphans, the food bank, volunteer, Service alone can bring contentment in life. It creates a sense of connectedness. When you bring some relief to someone through selfless service, good vibrations come to you. When you show kindness, your true nature, which is love and peace, come to the surface.

Make Your Smile Cheaper

I used to say good morning to someone at work and they never ever return the greeting for me or to anybody else, some other workers don’t even smile , so I decided to kill my smile and never ever return the greeting , I know it’s wrong but I wanted to give it a try.

I didn’t even communicate with those people or responded to their questions, of course they don’t have anything to do with the flow of work but I made them feel like they are not visible. I invited most of the workers and excluded them, until they got the point that I do not like them. They did ask me and I replied I don’t know what are you talking about , I don’t know you at all to hate you and I don’t care . Why is that they replied? I said smile and greeting, saying good morning and replying to other people greeting is part of kindness, part of been human and I don’t see that in you. After that they all changed and were part of the tem and as pleasant as they can be , only one person stay as she is , our boss fired here in few weeks as she don’t fit our work ethics.

Every day, every morning, look at the mirror and give a good smile to yourself. Don’t let your smile be snatched away by anybody! Usually, you give your anger freely and smile rarely, as though a smile is costly. Make your smile cheaper and anger expensive! Don’t be mean

Make worship and prayers a Part of Life

When we have higher goals in life it leads to stress and restlessness, which can be released through a few minutes of prayers, worship and self reflection Worshiping God alone gives you deep rest, deep trust in one God and strengthen your faith .The deeper you are able to rest, the more dynamic you will be in activity.

What is Salat? = worship =

It is the Relationship between yourself and God, if you can’t change yourself you are not ready to lead or change the world.

Mind without agitation focusing on the source of the creation and that is one God is worship. It is not done by catholic ritual of words on Sunday alone. It is daily practice to be toned in faith, as it is faith and nor a religion that matter.
• Mind in the present moment is worshiping God, so it is part of our daily mindfulness to live the moment with the creator.
• Mind that has no hesitation, no anticipation Is worship, we worship God because he is the only God wealth of that , we worship him because we love him and belong to him and not just because we fear him or need him for our livelihood. .
• Mind that comes back home to the source, which is peace and joy, is worship , Peace ( Alsalam ) Shalom is one of God names.
Be a Student Always, eager to learn even from those who have no college education , learn from anyone that can give you wisdom, positive thickening .

Know that you are a student forever. Do not underestimate anybody. Knowledge may come to you from any corner. Each occasion teaches you and each person teaches you. The world is your teacher. When you are always looking to learn, you will stop underestimating others. Humility will dawn in your life.

Feel Grateful

Our love, faith and belief should be deep rooted, and then everything else moves on its own. The feeling that “I am blessed” can help you overcome any failure. Once you realize that you are blessed, then all the complaints and grumbling disappear, all the insecurities disappear and you become grateful, contented and peaceful.

Our existence is not in isolation with the rest of the world. While this idea sounds spiritual, it is very pertinent to social and global situations that we see every now and then. When a house is on fire in the neighborhood, if we don’t act, it is only a matter of time before the fire reaches our own doorstep. Look what’s happening in California, because the government worried about jobs, money and elections  they forgot or already forgotten the environment , cut and clear shrubs , paying for more firefighters, and people are not helping each other , demonstrating in the street making more fire  the hall country went on fire.

There is an idea found in many ancient cultures that this world is one organism. The microcosm is a reflection of the macrocosm. Just like within us there are billions of cells with their independent existence that collectively make up our existence, all the billions of people and other creatures make up the being of this world.

Taking care of hygiene and preserving health is easier than going through treatment after the onset of disease. Just as we need to be proactive in maintaining our health, we need to be proactive in maintaining harmony in the world. Healthy multicultural exposure to children can go a long way in eliminating Hinduism fanaticism in India to respect Muslims and the minority so they can be respected and stop the bloodshed.

An attitude of service cultivated in young minds can be a preventive approach to tackling corruption. Therefore, proper education – one that inculcates human values and honors diversity, is necessary for sustainable peace in the world.

Only a few people in the world cause terror, not the whole population. Of the seven billion people on this planet, there are hardly a few thousand who cause crime and the whole world is affected. We can see that the Indian Hindu government punishing the hall 165 million Muslims in India by taking their citizen rights and birth rights, how can we expect justice if our enemy is the judge. With the same law, won’t the reverse also work?

Just a few thousand of us, being really peaceful, loving and caring for the whole planet can we not bring a transformation? One should not think, ‘what can I do?’’ or that one is insignificant. Everyone has a role to play when the world is in turmoil. Black lives matter started with one person. Right or wrong action resulted in ciaos.

A tiny homeopathic pill has the power to heal an 80 kg body. In the same way, every individual has an influence on this cosmos, on this planet. I call it the butterfly effect. Continue Reading →