My answer to A letter from a concern reader and her paranormal ability

Thank you so much for responding to my email. Thank you for taking me seriously

I first started “dreaming” of things that hadn’t yet happened when I was seven. Of course, at such a young age I didn’t think of it as having premonitions.

And as I got older, I kind of wrote it off altogether until I was fifteen.

 During that year I clearly remember having three out of body experiences. Each time it happened I was always shocked and afraid when I woke up in my bed because I know that I’d just been out and about the house.

 On one occasion after “waking up” in my room, I found my mother outside and told her word for word a conversation she’d just had with my sister. 

 Her mind was blown because she said that she’d looked in on me a little while ago. But I clearly remember standing on the porch while the two of them talked. I remember that the wind was blowing my hair. But the next thing I knew I was opening my eyes in my bed.

 She was already aware that I somehow always “just knew” things about people, even complete strangers, things that I had no way to explain knowing and as much as I didn’t want to admit it, she was afraid.

So I never talked about any of it again until I met my husband.

 But now that he’s gone, it’s as if all my senses have been blown wide open and I can’t for the life of me block anything out. It’s like I feel whatever the people around me feel.

And it’s absolutely overwhelming. It’s like I can even pick up on specific words, phrases, and gestures of people I don’t even know!! 

 I reached out to you because I don’t know what else to do. I don’t understand any of these things. 

 I live in Indianapolis, Indiana, I’m 29 years old.

 I blame myself for his death because I didn’t trust myself enough to warn him sooner. He’d been having such a hard time in Guatemala. He struggled. 

 We talked the day he died. One of the very last messages I sent to him, was of me telling him that I had received a vision of him stepping free of the storm he felt trapped in. That the image in my mind was of him raising his face to the sky and finally taking a long deep breath of relief that the storm was over. He died about an hour later.

 
I have one daughter…..Who is very much like me. I’m afraid for her sometimes. She is 9 y old.

 There are people I used to work with that I send holiday greetings to, but other than that people tend to stay away from me. I don’t mean to pick up on their moods and thoughts but I can’t help it.

 The last few years I’ve spent more time in hospitals than anywhere else.

 In 2009 when I was 20 and perfectly healthy, I developed a very rare blood clotting disorder. I have a heart murmur and last year was diagnosed with kidney disease.

 The crazy thing is that after years of endless testing, not a single doctor has been able to tell me the cause of any of it. I’ve had more blood tests than I can count, spent weeks at a time in ICU and have seen some of the top doctors here in Indiana, but the end result is the same. They don’t know why.

 I’m an animal tech. Well, I was until my doctor asked me to stop working. So now I stay at home. I read very much. Retraining myself on piano and I take care of my daughter. That’s about it.

 I think my daughter can see things too. Ever since she could talk… She tells me that she sees colorful lights in the air. I often watch her watching them. She says that she sees little golden sparkles around me. 

 What convinced me though is that back in 2010, she was 3. I’d just come home from a long stay at the hospital. While I was there one night, I thought I was hallucinating because I kept seeing people walk up to my hospital bed. An old man….A little girl who was dressed in clothes from the 1920’s and so on……But the person I remember best was this woman.

 She came in the room wearing a long white gown and her hair was wrapped in a white scarf/turban. She came over to me and sat on the edge of my bed. She never spoke, only smiled down at me and I remember thinking that she looked like me.

 I never brought it up because I thought it was a dream. But two weeks later, my daughter came into my bedroom and said “mommy there’s a lady in my room”

……She was so calm!! ….So I asked her, ‘a lady? Who is she”?

 Jas answered and said, “I don’t know”. I asked what she looked like, my daughter responded, “well…… She was wearing a long white dress mommy……And she had this white thing on her head…… And mommy….She looked like you.”

 I asked her if the lady talked and she said “no. She just smiled at me and walked out”

 That was it. Jas then began playing with her toys as if nothing strange had happened. But I was terrified. I had no way to explain how my 3-year-old daughter saw the same woman I had “dreamt” of weeks ago!

 It really is just the two of us now. I can’t remember the last time I was able to sleep at night because it’s like when I turn the lights off….. There’s always this distant chatter….. People talking…… Sometimes my name gets called so loud it’ll wake me out of a dead sleep. And I hear music all the time. Music I can’t describe and that I’ve never heard in my life! Sometimes it’s so beautiful.

 So I normally stay up at night with the lights and TV on. I’m exhausted. The past few weeks I feel like I’m going to end up in an institution.

 Again, thank you very much for listening and replying and I am looking forward to your answers. If you can teach me how to live with this….I would be forever grateful. 

Thanks again. 

Kr. Indiana – USA.August 2017.


MY ANSWER.

Greeting from Calgary – Alberta.May God bless you and protect you 

Thank you very much for reaching out and emailing me your story. In your first letter, I explained to you the dream you had and whats that dream was telling you.

I read your letter and I want to pinpoint few key areas in your personal experiences. So I shortened your letter to these areas 

1- “Dreaming” of things that hadn’t yet happened when I was seven. My answer to this is that you have the gift of futuristic dreams before the loss of your husband you had this gift and the tragic loss of your husband opened up your senses so it is not something strange many people do have this gift My self is included. These dreams will fade away in time cause you are still in a state of shock and denial, you are alone out of work with a daughter and the anxiety level, stress and paranoia are very high. People with anxiety and severe stress can hear things, see things and that is proven scientifically. You are out of body experience is also a unique among some people who have this ability. 

2-  until I was fifteen. During that year I clearly remember having three out of body experiences. Each time it happened I was always shocked and afraid when I woke up in my bed because I KNOW that I’d just been out and about the house. My answer for this is that An out-of-body experience (OBE or sometimes OOBE) is an experience that typically involves a feeling of floating outside one’s body and, in some cases, the feeling of perceiving one’s physical body as if from a place outside one’s body (autoscopy). A breakthrough study in Sweden has shown that out of body experiences are real.

Many people have claimed to have experienced the phenomenon when they come close to death or when undergoing surgery, for example, claiming that they can see everything that is going on around them from a different perspective while unconscious.Medical experts have debated for some time whether it is real, but a breakthrough study has seemed to confirm the existence of the phenomenon.Neuroscientists from Sweden’s Karolinska Institutet created an out-of-body illusion when they placed study participants in a brain scanner and used an illusion to ‘teleport’ the individuals to different locations in a room.

The 15 individuals involved wore head-mounted displays and viewed themselves and the brain scanner from another part of the room.

On the display, the individuals could see the body of a stranger in the foreground and themselves in the background, protruding from the brain scanner.

The scientists would then prod the participants with an object at the same time they saw the stranger’s body being prodded on the display.

Arvid Guterstam, lead author of the present study, said: “In a matter of seconds, the brain merges the sensation of touch and visual input from the new perspective, resulting in the illusion of owning the stranger’s body and being located in that body’s position in the room, outside the participant’s physical body.”

The scientists then used pattern recognition techniques to monitor brain activity and found that “the perceived self-location can be decoded from activity patterns in specific areas in the temporal and parietal lobes,” according to a press release. To me, it is a gift and you should use it and focus on the what and where you can use it and that can help you and your daughter to find that both of you have a gift and not a curse. In time God will guide you to why he selected you and your daughter for this as he did for so many other people who have this gift.

 3- I can even pick up on specific words, phrases, and gestures of people I don’t even know!! My answer to you here is that you are in state of shock and denial for the passing of your husband and the anger you have about your self of not telling him about your dream, it is the sense of guilt and self-blame that make you think that other people are talking about you or behind your back, your anxiety can make you hear noises and voice music and song it is proven . Anxiety can render people blind for a while. Embarrassment and shame aren’t pleasant to experience, of course. But they do often serve a useful purpose. Studies show that we are likely to be more considerate and kind, and also more likely to be motivated to correct past mistakes when we experience embarrassment or shame.

So, at one level, it’s a good thing that we care so much about what others think of us. But what’s also true is that most of us are guilty of worrying too much about what others think of us. Studies showed that we consistently overestimate how much, and how badly, others think about us and our failings.

An unfortunate consequence of this is that we are far more inhibited and far less spontaneous and joyful than we could be. The good news is that many of us seem to recognize this problem. In the happiness course that I teach, I sometimes ask students to list all the things they want to get out of the class. The outcome that consistently ranks at the top of this list is:

I would like to learn how to stop being bothered by what others are thinking of you. Be positive, you have a gift and try to make friends and get out of the house, don’t be alone, walk and do things with your daughter out side of your house let her find friends too. Things will change when you try to reach out, pray to the Lord always for help and guidance as you are not alone.Actually, the out of body experience is telling you to get out, experience new things positive things and to de-stress your self.

 

4- I blame myself for his death because I didn’t trust myself enough to warn him sooner. He’d been having such a hard time in Guatemala. He struggled. 

 My answer to this is as above remember self-guilt and self-blame can lead you to stress and anxiety and low self-esteem.Life is in God’s hands. 

Self-blame is one of the most toxic forms of emotional abuse. It amplifies our perceived inadequacies, whether real or imagined and paralyzes us before we can even begin to move forward.

We typically hear a great deal about loving-kindness in the faith traditions, like Christianity, Islam, and Judaism, as well as in the spiritual and para-spiritual communities. While we are commonly counseled to extend loving-kindness to others, we often fail in first extending it to ourselves; that frequently comes in the form of self-blame.You, yourself, as much as anyone else in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection. – Buddha

One factor that significantly contributes to our system of self-blame is the failure to recognize our own humanity. We are, on the one hand, perfect beings. On the other hand, we are very much human beings – perfect in spirit, not so perfect in our humanness. Yet, rather than holding space or acknowledging this abiding double-edged aspect of the human condition, we often dwell in the illusion of our perfectionism or, at the very least, our need to be right.

When either we or the world we create around us does not meet this illusory ideal, we are often apt to take on fault and responsibility that is not ours to own. Our failure to recognize the balance of responsibility in any given situation leads us into the trap of misassigning that responsibility, which can quickly devolve into self-blame.

This need to be right—to avoid blame or responsibility for things potentially getting derailed—can be paralyzing. It can stop us from beginning new projects, or, conversely, keep us stuck in our sometimes all-too-comfortable comfort zone, preventing us not only from moving forward but, in some cases, from actually evolving.

Secondarily, blame leads to shame and, in the context of self-blame that means self-shaming. Taking on the responsibility that is not our own can not only paralyze us but drag us down into the inertia of self-devaluation. If we are not perfect, we must be something else: something less than. The question is, less than what? Why less than perfect. Wait…what?

The key to self-acceptance—the lynch pin in the system of becoming a whole human—is recognizing that we are perfect just the way we are and that perfection is stunningly imperfect. In fact, it’s a mess—an absolutely beautiful disaster. It’s, well, human.

When we come to a point of self-realization that allows us to allow for ourselves, then that glorious imperfection is no longer an obstacle, but an opportunity. It is fuel for a fire that burns so brightly as to be blinding. We only need to open our eyes—and our hearts—to it.

We are not perfect. We are not going to get it right every time. If we enter into each situation, relationship and moment with that perspective, rather than trying to interject the opposite, we create an opportunity for learning, introspection, self-discovery and, ultimately, personal evolution. If we abide by our need to be right, those opportunities escape us and we get stuck expending all our energy trying to shore up the castle walls just as they are crumbling around us.

The first step in releasing self-blame is recognizing responsibility. In other words, who owns what and where does our personal ownership lie? If we have done our due diligence, if we have entered into the moment honestly and with authenticity, then, should things go awry, it will be clear how much of that is ours to own.

The next step is taking on that responsibility. Taking responsibility is not the same as taking the blame. The idea of blame suggests there is some implied wrongness afoot—an abject negative. Taking responsibility means acknowledging our part in what is wrong. That wrong is not an abject negative, but a circumstance we have created by virtue of our action or inaction.

Taking away the blame without taking away the responsibility keeps us accountable to ourselves and the world around us without setting us up for shame and devaluation. Instead of getting to be right, we get to be wrong, but in the best way possible; with dignity, authenticity and a sense of ownership that is far afield from self-abuse.

5- We talked the day he died. One of the very last messages I sent to him, was of me telling him that I had received a vision of him stepping free of the storm he felt trapped in. That the image in my mind was of him raising his face to the sky and finally taking a long deep breath of relief that the storm was over. He died about an hour later.  Again don’t be hard on your self, accept the facts that God at work here and we do our best to avoid situations. You husband now needs prayers to bless his soul .try to seek a social worker for your daughter and go to a faith gathering so you be with others.Talk to your doctor to help you to reduce your stress and anxiety,

 
6 -I have one daughter…..Who is very much like me. I’m afraid for her sometimes. She is 9 y old. Well again care for her, she need now more than ever. Imagine how she feels inside losing her father.Try to make her your best friend, focus on her, teach her good and let her be normal.She has her own anxiety and she will make so many imaginary friends but some times dark entities can take a form of an imaginary friend so watch her and be smart. Remember the devil and his followers are stronger when we are at our worse point in life, stressed and low. So fight him with prayers with love to your daughter and love to your self-don’t let him win.

 

7- In 2009 when I was 20 and perfectly healthy, I developed a very rare blood clotting disorder. I have a heart murmur and last year was diagnosed with kidney disease.The crazy thing is that after years of endless testing, not a single doctor has been able to tell me the cause of any of it. I’ve had more blood tests than I can count, spent weeks at a time in ICU and have seen some of the top doctors here in Indiana, but the end result is the same. They don’t know why.   Well, I will leave this t your doctors as they know your file and history. One thing comes to my mind regarding your disorder is hunter syndrome. Ask your doctor about it. Several rare genetic disorders are characterized by the formation of blood clots(thromboses). These disorders may be collectively referred as the thrombophilias and include protein C deficiency, protein S deficiency, antithrombin III deficiency, and factor V Leiden. Make sure to ask your doctor to check your daughter also she may carry so to save her from now. 

 

8 I’m an animal tech. Well, I was until my doctor asked me to stop working.  That’s why you are caring and sensitive like the pets they can hear and see things a head of time using the infrasound and ultrasound abilities. 

9-I think my daughter can see things too. Ever since she could talk… She tells me that she sees colorful lights in the air. I think so too she is a part of your DN and Genes.

10- I often watch her watching them. She says that she sees little golden sparkles around me.  My answer is first to take her to an optometrist to make sure that there is no defect in her retina in the eye. Other wise she is fine as children can see angels of white light and golden colors some times they don’t know why of course.

 11- What convinced me though is that back in 2010, she was 3. I’d just come home from a long stay at the hospital. While I was there one night, I thought I was hallucinating because I kept seeing people walk up to my hospital bed. An old man….A little girl who was dressed in clothes from the 1920’s and so on……But the person I remember best was this woman. Again beside hallucinations that can be induced with many different medications can lead you to see things, the most important are your Anxiety level as this alone can lead you to see things. I think that you were in a very sensitive time in your life under extreme stress and that open a portal to let you see whats around you, it is a survival mechanism to relieve the stress and take your mind away and put you in the state of wonder and relaxation. These figures are real in your mind and you have to find out who they are and what they want if you see them, ask them as they are earth bound spirits that they can sense those who can see them.

 12-he came into the room wearing a long white gown and her hair was wrapped in a white scarf/turban. She came over to me and sat on the edge of my bed. She never spoke, only smiled down at me and I remember thinking that she looked like me. My answer here is to be very careful here as this is called Doppelganger.This entity comes when the person about to die or have an out of body experience or when severely ill. You are lucky that you didn’t pass away. That girl is a friend of your daughter saved you from this of course only God can save us but he allows us to wonder and experience things and he test our faith he saw goodness in you and the love of your daughter and God have mercy on you and kept you for now for your daughter.

 

13 – I never brought it up because I thought it was a dream. But two weeks later, my daughter came into my bedroom and said “mommy there’s a lady in my room”She was so calm!! ….So I asked her, ‘a lady? Who is she”?   It is a dream but again you have futuristic dreams and both you and your daughter have this ability so this dream that comes true is influenced by this entity, I feel it is a benign entity, a spirit of comfort and guide -ness like a guardian spirit. To give comfort to you and your daughter. God has so many ways to help us.

14 she answered and said, “I don’t know”. I asked what she looked like, my daughter responded, “well…… She was wearing a long white dress mommy……And she had this white thing on her head…… And mommy….She looked like you.”I asked her if the lady talked and she said “no. She just smiled at me and walked out”  White dress is a good omen, an angel color. The head cover or scarf is what Virgin Mary wears.She usually comes to help kids in time of distress and severe need.So pray you both are lucky to feel the presence of virgin mary.

 15 That was it. Jas then began playing with her toys as if nothing strange had happened. But I was terrified. I had no way to explain how my 3-year-old daughter saw the same woman I had “dreamt” of weeks ago!  My answer is this  Entity of Virgin Mary is checking on your daughter. Mke sure your house is clean and the room is clean put some incents and candles, open bible and fresh water in a glass .flowers, and open window to let the sun in.Make some rosary prayers.

 16 – It really is just the two of us now. I can’t remember the last time I was able to sleep at night because it’s like when I turn the lights off….. There’s always this distant chatter….. People talking…… Sometimes my name gets called so loud it’ll wake me out of a dead sleep.And I hear music all the time. Music I can’t describe and that I’ve never heard in my life! Sometimes it’s so beautiful.

  Again remember that anxiety can lead to this seek the help of a doctor who can help you to reduce anxiety. Make sure to pray and put prayers music in your house as some times angels do come with Virgin Mary to pray and play music sing and chant prayers.

 Thank you so much. I will ask a friend of mine he used to run the paranormal state in the USA to look into this as he is in USA I hope he make your case a priority.

Steve Ramsey, Ph.D.  Public Health, – Calgary , Canada

 

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By Dr.Steve Ramsey,PhD

Greeting from Calgary, Alberta - Canada. My name is Saad Al-Hashimi. Known as Steve Ramsey PhD, I am the founder and the director of the Paranormal zone- Haunting Dimensions. That deals with an investigation, debunking, and healing/cleansing since 1986. Having had many unexplainable experiences from a young age at a possible "haunted" house where plenty of things seemed to happen that I couldn’t explain, since that time and I am looking and searching for an answer. After continuing to have many experiences that I just cannot explain, I have since become a firm believer that GHOSTS do exist. I continued for a short while as a member of a few other paranormal groups until I was very fortunate to become involved with a local fast growing organization where I felt very comfortable to start my own paranormal investigation. My best experience has been Indio California, Okotoks Alberta, Baghdad city , and many other places in Greece and North Canada. (yes I do believe spirits can hurt you so you have to be careful not to provoke or challenge a spirit ). I won’t tell you the whole story now but you are more than welcome to ask me on a ghost hunt. I am now looking forward to meeting many more people, all looking for that ‘experience’ that could possibly convince them that there is something more to life than we first thought. So please feel free to email me drsteveramsey@gmail.com I have been involved in several paranormal groups over the years. Paranormal Adventures is different and exciting in ways I couldn’t possibly get before. When people ask if I believe in ghosts, I say I am a skeptical believer. I have had many encounters with spirit forms and believe what I have seen to be real and unexplainable. I always look for a normal mundane reason why at the same time. My area of expertise in the field of science. I have Ph.D. in Public Health from the USA, Master degree in Medical Ultrasound and BSc Degree in Diagnostic Imaging from Charles Sturt University Australia, BSc in Physics, and Radiology diploma from Iraq, Pharmacy diploma. Radiography diploma from London Ontario, Diploma in Natural Health from Quebec, Canada. Radiation physics from Australia, I studied the infra and ultrasound in the animal kingdom.P resented more than 20 lectures in Iraq, Greece, Germany, South Korea, Japan, Canada and I am the peer reviewer for the radiographer journal in UK, Netherlands, and South Africa. Earned the 3rd award for excellence in ultrasound - Canada 2005. I am also armature archaeologist, painter, calligrapher, and used to run acting theater play in Iraq- Baghdad, wrote, directed and acted in more than 27 plays. So debunking come naturally in my science and technology back round, and not like other debunking people around you who use Google for their search and call them self-debunkers, It doesn't work that way. In the near future, I will run live internet ghost hunts with night vision cameras giving users at home the chance to watch the spooky footage on, in my nights out. I look forward to seeing you all soon on one of our many events! I loved reading ghost stories and sitting on my own in the dark watching horror films. However. I Can decode dreams, and I see spirits in my dreams. I like to look at things from a scientific point of view and try to rule out all rational possibilities before concluding that events are paranormal. However, I do try to keep an open mind on all investigations. I started taking part in investigations since 1986; my first investigation usually any house, apartment that I move in or my friend's places. For many of my true paranormal stories you can read them at www.linkedin.com I will try to copy and move all my articles here in this site in near future. Thank you for reading and God Bless you all. Steve Ramsey PhD. Alberta