Pretty much everything has the power to upset our basic sense of well-being. Our tendency, when things bother us, is to blame the other person or situation for getting it wrong and thus causing our suffering.
Romans;12:2 -Do not copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, who is good and pleasing and perfect. So here is God telling the faithful that we don’t have to be Buddhists, Hindus, seek or belong to any other cult or new world religion from China, India or anywhere in the world and shall not copy their behaviors culture and custom that they choices to follow, as they have their teachings of men .And that those who are in God with faith must ask for wisdom and knowledge to be transformed by changing the way they think, the way they see the world and ask God for his gift of wisdom ,and knowledge so that they can be changed and transformed to a new person .
It is all start by asking God, then let him transform us to a new person by letting him help us to change the way we think. We must change the way we think to change everything around us. When we cannot change the cause of our suffering, many of us continue to blame the other person or situation. This may provide us with some relief, at least for a while. But what happens when trying to change the other has failed and continuing to blame is not actually making us feel better either?
God has a purpose for your pain and suffering, a reason for your struggles and cry, he is testing you and trying to make you humble and cleanse your heart to bring you to him spiritually ,and reward you for your faithfulness , so dont give up .
In the holy Quran also mentioned this and said that God don’t change a nation until they start changing the way they think and change themselves.
Once we have identified what we consider the cause of our disturbance, we usually set out to try and fix it. We attempt to change the other person’s behavior or the situation into something we consider right, or at least something that will not bother us. If some one do not like you ,you cannot change that right away, but in time with patient and showing your kindness and gratitude they might come closer and listen ,it takes time but now days we don’t have time we run out of time because we have so many other problems to deal with.
2 -Tim. 1: 7. God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity but of power, love, and self-discipline If a friend speaks unkindly to me, I feel hurt, a direct result of his choice of words.
We impact one another. We need to try to change what’s not working .We turn our attention into yourselves is to ask the question: What does this situation or person’s behavior trigger in me? What pain is generated in me when I am confronted with this behavior or reality?
That’s why the devil first step is to render us powerless, put us in despair,depression, anger and aggression and try to bring fear in the our heart and strep us from God power , the devil will try to bring hate among us so we don’t love each other don’t care about each other and don’t be kind , he will do love each other don’t care about each other and don’t be kind , he will do anything to distance us from love and care of other the love of God. When that’s happen the devil will try to get us away from God mercy by temptations and destroying our self discipline to commit sin as he know that the wage of sin is death.
We all know, we can’t control anyone else’s behavior, and we can’t make another person want to or be able to change. That’s why is leaving it up to us we have person want to or be able to change.
That’s why is leaving it up to us we have person want to or be able to change. That’s why is leaving it up to us we have words and his way and continue to love us even if decide to distance yourself from him like he is someone with a virus . But we can always make the choice to shift our attention inward, to focus the lens of curiosity onto ourselves.
And remember, by investigating our own experience, we are not condoning the behavior that triggers our suffering, nor are we assuming responsibility for having caused it. We must believe with faith and ask him for the knowledge to help us change.
Steve Ramsey. Okotoks – Alberta – Canada.