I asked this question and directed my anger to the sky when my pet Smokey died after 8000 dollars Vet hospital bills and care, at age 13. I cried days and night then I was angry at God who took my parents, took my pet, give me a hardship , blamed him of the lost of more than one billion animal that was killed in Australia , the killing of 176 people that was shot by the evil Iranian regimes among them so many Canadians , and now some of my family back home are arrested by the evil Iranians militia.
I screamed at God like never before deep in my heart I know it’s wrong but I was sad and wanted some justice, fairness and answers. Then I remember that if I give God the time and the place he will make the change.
May be I didn’t give him the time he deserve daily with thanks for his blessing and many other things that he provided, and that his place should be in our heart, as he look into our heart and not to how we look or dress, how tall or strong we are but he look at our heart and how humble we are. I am a kind man God Screaming at him, why?
Then I remembered what he said in the holy books
Ecclesiastes 3; 1-10 ESV / 87
For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven: a time to be born, and a time to die; a time to plant, and a time to pluck up what is planted; a time to kill, and a time to heal; a time to break down, and a time to build up; a time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance; a time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together; a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing.
I had tears in my eyes as I know that give and take, He gave us things to love and care for like a temporally care taking of a parent or a pet then he wanted back, it’s not mind to start with .But it is so difficult to depart from something you love so much a wife, a husband a partner a pet you love.
The question usually arises in times of great suffering and loss. Disease threatens to undo all your dreams. Death takes a precious child from your family. Or a partner with cancer or severe illness, a pet died in your arm, utterly unexpected desertion and divorce shake the foundations of your world. At these times people can become very angry, upset and sad even at God, like in my situation.
Quran 103:1-3 “By time, surely man is in loss, save those who believe and do good deeds, and enjoin on each other truth, and enjoin on each other patience.”
So with patience and knowing how God work we can still be sad , cry and go throw the grieving process and I know that God is looking , hearing and trying to see your heart change and is it like a test of our faith.
In Quran 2: 155, we find this bit of wisdom: “Verily, We shall put you to test with some fear, and hunger, and with some loss of wealth, lives, and offspring. And convey good tidings to those who are patient, who say, when inflicted by hardship, ‘Verily we are of God and verily to Him shall we return;’ upon them is the blessings of Allah and His mercy.”
These words remind us that our trials are opportunities to grow. Everyone experiences a time of testing at some point in their lives—some more than others. No one is exempt from this. But the answer to hardship doesn’t lie in wishful thinking, in desiring a life of no difficulty. The answer lies in how we respond to that difficulty when it arises.
When we respond to hardship with positivity and resilience, knowing that it is temporary, we reap rewards later. Those rewards may come in the form of intangible wisdom and life experience, or in tangible goods, but they always come to those who are patient in adversity.
We all get angry sometimes but the questions is
Is it always right to get angry at God? In other words, can a person get angry at God for every reason, and still be right? Was it right, for example, for Jonah to be angry at God’s mercy on Nineveh? “God relented of the disaster that he had said he would do to them, and he did not do it.
But it displeased Jonah exceedingly, and he was angry” (Jonah 3; 10)
I assume the answer would be, No. We should not get angry at God for just any reason. But for me as a human, I am weak, we are not perfect and we always need the wisdom and knowledge to bring us to God and repent as we are born sinner and make mistakes, so without God in our life we will lose.
But then we would ask: Which deeds of God is it right to get angry with and which is it not? Now this is harder to answer. The truth begins to close in on the angry heart.
What about the things that displease us? Are these the acts of God that are good to be angry at? Is it the acts of God that hurt us? “I take life and I make alive;
I wound and I heal; and there is none that can deliver out of my hand” (Deuteronomy 32; 39).
So all is in God hand even this poor pet of mine that I love so much
Are these the acts that justify us in directing our anger at God? Or is it his choice to permit the devil to harass and torture us?
“God said to Satan, ‘Behold, [Job] is in your hand; only spare his life.’ So Satan went out from the presence of the LORD and struck Job with loathsome sores from the sole of his foot to the crown of his head” Job 2; 6-7.
We should ask ourselves what is anger?
An intense emotional state induced by displeasure” (Merriam-Webster). But there is an ambiguity in this definition. You can be “displeased” by a thing or by a person.
Anger at a thing does not contain indignation at a choice or an act. We simply don’t like the effect of the thing: the broken I phone, or the grain of sand that just blew in our eye, or rain on our picnic and in the middle of the soccer game, but when we get angry at a person, we are displeased with a choice they made and an act they performed.
Anger at a person always implies strong disapproval. If you are angry at me, you think I have done something I should not have done. That’s why I was angry at God because of my misunderstanding , I thought the Pet he gave me was a gift at age 5 weeks I took care of that pet and when he dies at age 13 years I was mat as of why you took your gift back!
But When I cooled down I thought that he just gave me this pet as a temporally things to hold into to change my life and get my attentions somewhere else as I was going throw rough time and this pet did his part and brought me happiness and pleasure and I took care of him and now is the time to go but my selfishness is trying to hold on to him.
This is why being angry at God is never right.
It is wrong – always wrong – to disapprove of God for what he does and permits.
“Shall not the Judge of the entire earth do what is just?” (Genesis 18; 25) .
It is arrogant for finite, sinful creatures to disapprove of God for what he does and permits.
We may weep over the pain. We may be angry at sin and Satan. But God does only what is right.
But many who say it is right to be angry with God really mean it is right to express anger at God. When they hear me say it is wrong to be angry with God, they think I mean “stuff your feelings and be a hypocrite.” That’s not what I mean. I mean it is always wrong to disapprove of God in any of his judgments.
But if we do experience the sinful emotion of anger at God, what then? Shall we add the sin of hypocrisy to the sin of anger? No. If we feel it, we should confess it to God. He knows it anyway. He sees our hearts. If anger at God is in our heart, we may as well tell him so, and then tell him we are sorry, and ask him to help us put it away by faith in his goodness and wisdom.
Deuteronomy 6; 4-9 ESV / 21
The Lord our God, the Lord is one. You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might. And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise. You shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as front lets between your eyes.
IF YOU FEEL LONELY ,DONT BE, YOU ARE NOT ALONE, AS GOD IS WITH YOU ALL THE TIME
I gave God a place in my heart and my home to pray and a time to do so, and I just put all my sadness and despair in his hands.
Steve Ramsey, PhD. Okotoks, AB, Canada.