The relationship and impotence of warning and guiding the parents n child behavior in the Quran.
By Saad Ramzi Ismail Al Haleem, Ph.D., Alberta – Canada
The simple, little things you do with your kids like reading the Quran with him, tell them about God and the simple history of mankind, how and why t be kind to everything especially animal as our faith is faith of kindness, teach them how to obey God and preserve the commandments and what happens if they lie, steal or curse .
All of these small steps can make a big difference. These activities create strong, healthy relationships that can prevent future drug use and abuse of others, clean health life that tuned with God.
Little is known about the influences of religious beliefs and practices on parenting adolescents. Yet religious beliefs and practices have the potential to profoundly influence many aspects of life, including approaches to parenting. This is particularly relevant with increasing diversity of religious affiliations around the world.
In many hadith from Prophet, Mohammed saws tell us about the relations of the parents on their children to set their future to believe system and faith.
The holy book of Quran mentioned that relationship
SAHIH INTERNATIONAL Surat Yaseen 6th verse
That you may warn a people whose forefathers were not warned, so they are unaware.
The Holy Quran here mentioned parents in Arabic name and that includes both the mother and father and why it is important to tell them, talk to them, warn them and guide them to the faith as they will affect the children in return.
Allah knows the importance of child development in early stage and why we should focus or preaching and teaching and warn the parents so they can pass it to their children
The word parents mentioned 7 times in the Quran.
Respecting parents is one of the most significant aspects of Islam. God says in the Quran:
Your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him and that you be kind to parents. Whether one or both of them attain old age in your life, say not to them a word of contempt, nor repel them, but address them in terms of honor. (17:23)
The first decree in this verse is to worship none but God. This is the first and most important pillar of Islam, and enjoining partners with God is the only unforgivable sin. The order right after this is a kindness to parents.
There are other major sins in Islam that could have been mentioned here, but the one God has forbidden us against here is disrespect to parents. We are told not to speak contemptuously to them: the word given in Arabic is “oof,” and even this simple groan of scorn is forbidden. Instead, God has told us to address them with honor and deference.
The next verse tells us: “And, out of kindness, lower to them the wing of humility, and say: ‘My Lord! Bestow on them your Mercy even as they cherished me in childhood’” (17:24).
Moreover, the prayer in this verses (“My Lord! Bestow on them your Mercy even as they cherished me in childhood”) is extremely powerful, and many scholars say that Muslims should say this after every prayer. It is truly a beautiful prayer, as we are asking God to bestow mercy on our parents, as they were merciful to us when we were young.
Holding one’s parents in high esteem is so important that, even if they tell us not to obey God’s command, we are still to treat them kindly. God says in the Quran,
But if they strive to make you join in worship with me things of which you have no knowledge, obey them not; yet bear them company in this life with justice (and consideration). (31:15)
Even if our parents strive to make us commit the worst act in Islam, we must still treat them with justice. There is no concept of leaving our parents in Islam, even if they are disbelievers. To further elaborate this point, there is a saying from the Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him (PBUH), narrated by Asma, the daughter of the Prophet’s good friend, Abu Bakr. Asma once asked the Prophet (PBUH) how she should treat her mother, who was a polytheist. The Prophet (PBUH) replied, “Treat your mother well.”
While we should obviously respect both our parents, our mothers are given special treatment in Islam. This is because our mothers carried us for nine months, and were our primary caregivers when we were children. In one saying of the Prophet Muhammad (PBUH), a companion asked him who deserves the best treatment and respect. The Prophet (PBUH) replied, “Your mother.” The companion asked again, and again the reply was “Your mother.” The companion asked a third time, and once more the Prophet (PBUH) said, “Your mother.” When the companion asked for the last time, the Prophet (PBUH) then answered, “Your father.”
- Many researchers found that Parents generally equated ‘good’ parenting with being warm and loving while setting boundaries and standards for their children. This conforms to a model of ‘authoritative’ parenting thought to promote healthy development and wellbeing.
- Parents acknowledged that young people should choose for themselves whether to adopt religious values in adult life, but views differed about the age at which they could make informed choices. The younger you teach them is better to mold their belief system.
Joan E. Grusec, Ph.D., Tanya Danyliuk, BA University of Toronto, Canada, December 2014, Rev. ed.
Mentioned that; Parents’ Attitudes and Beliefs: Their Impact on Children’s Development
The study of parent cognitions, beliefs, thoughts, and feelings can expand our knowledge of child development. Child-rearing cognitions influence parents to act either positively or negatively towards their children.
These beliefs have been considered good predictors of parenting behavior because they indicate the emotional climate in which children and parents operate and the health of the relationship. In sum, parents observe their children through a filter of conscious and unconscious thoughts, beliefs, and attitudes, and these filters direct the way they perceive their children’s actions.
When the thoughts are benign, they direct positive actions. When the thoughts are accurate they will usually lead to positive actions. When they are distorted and distressing, however, they distract parents from the task at hand as well as leading to negative emotions and attributions that ultimately impair effective parenting.
Dr. Patricia Fosarelli, MD, DMin mentioned that; Religious faith doesn’t come up regularly in examining room conversation.
Yet patients’ and parents’ beliefs can appreciably influence their attitudes
about health and illness and sometimes affect medical care. In other studies
Dr. Peggy Drexler Ph.D. mentioned that we blame parents for how their children behave and develop.